(difficult conversations – 3 minute read)
Throughout our entire life we will be faced with moments that require us to have difficult conversations. This could be applied to any scenario, be it in business or personal matters. Despite them coming in different forms, the treatment will always be the same; which is to never avoid them.
Why is it important?
While it is perfectly understandable for us to have concerns when attempting to clash with another person, more often than not, avoiding them is never the best course of action.
By not setting boundaries be it with clients, your boss at work and even those within your friendship circle you are effectively allowing the negativity to fester and grow. This results in further dissatisfaction and would lead to an even bigger issue should the adverse feelings ever decide to come out.
What is to gain?
Simply put, peace of mind could be achieved after having those difficult conversations. Resolutions that are achieved would help reduce animosity between affected parties and would help move on to bigger and better things to focus on and pour energy into other than clouding your headspace with doubts and stress.
For example, we all have had difficult individuals in our lifetime, be it a lover or friend; In some instances they might push your buttons and rub you the wrong way.
During moments of clashing ideals, it is important to let known what your stance is regarding the matter. They are not mind-readers and are unable to discern how you truly feel about the matter.
By having that difficult conversation you are effectively putting your foot down and standing up for yourself. No matter the outcome, at the very least you would have gotten a resolution to the conflict.
When is a good time to initiate it?
While there is no “perfect moment”, there are moments that are ideal to have these type of conversations. One such moment would be a moment of temporary calm. Not only that, moments of vulnerability and openness would also be a great time.
When both parties have a calmer headspace, that should be the opportune moment to initiate a conversation. This way the outcome is not distorted by emotions and a logical/rational outcome is attained.
In summary, difficult conversations is constant in our daily lives and we should not fear the outcome of those confrontations. Your mental health and well-being must take precedence in these situations. We should always make known with what is okay and what is not.